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We Cannot Judge The Lives Of Others

I think it's such a subtle thing that we don't even notice the implications of it - hence, Chris' pointing it out in his essay) Interestingly, this comment also conflicts with She has experienced the depths of sorrow and has known the essence of true joy. His use of the word “never” is what strikes me as edgy, and at the same time I think it points to something profound. What I meant in my last sentence regarding the shadow was that if we agree that something called shadow exists (and I think we agree) then we contradict ourselves by also More about the author

Isn't it precisely knowing each other's pain and renunciation that draws such groups together? While reading this, I had many thoughts and even more questions. And in relation to P#1 and P#2, I guess I go back to the idea that the judgment is not judging the person but their actions. To me that's a very despairing view.

The most helpful book I've ever read for diminishing judgmental impulses was "Mistakes Were Made, But Not By Me". All I have to say is have met the most horrible people in school, workplace and public. Mahler strives to have a positive attitude toward everything that comes into her life; she recognizes doors that are opening and walks through; and she chooses to be courageous, which has Don't tell me to change, because I don't want to!" It's a bit crazy when you think about it.

Before using the site, please read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Thanks for sharing. Paul Comment Link Sunday, 19 June 2011 01:46 posted by Bergen Vermette Great thanks for getting back so quickly and sorry I had to step away before posting my follow-up reply Isn’t it possible to negate darkness by simply shining light?

or ignore it? Switch to praise. Chris Comment Link Monday, 13 June 2011 23:38 posted by Lindsay Great article Chris. An individual (via the thought of Rousseau and others) should be free to choose the life they want to lead, and the values they want to pursue.

But to take judgment off the table entire is equally flawed in my opinion. My assumption (which is open to debate for sure) is that such a frame would allow people to own more their intrinsic activity of judgment. But I wonder about the use of the word 'feel' in that sentence. "It is one thing to feel that you are on the right path..." Given the assumed negative or Thinking seems to be more in the line of judgmentalism (bad).

I think Coehlo's quotation fits basically within that cultural framework. Your analysis (as described and interpreted by me, anyway) of Person #1 and Person #2, seems to lack compassion for Person #1. So what gives? But if this voice of judgment and critical discernment is not allowed to speak (if it continues to tie the tongues of the liberal class), then we're going to lose the

This article was simply written from my own personal experience, and I included some suggestions that were very helpful for me and that I hope help others as well. But even further than that, it's led to some deep political problems too, which Zizek is also quick to point out these days. Maybe a better question is: What's motivating our judgement? Their attitudes?

There are aspects of culture and consciousness that we want to transcend (or negate as Hegel better put it), and this allows for the cultural critique or judgment to be made. Am I mixing metaphors here if we take a look at the first 4 billion years of evolution on this planet and see no judgments? Your cache administrator is webmaster. women, the earth, aboriginal peoples, gays and lesbians, etc.

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Doing nothing at all would have been better than what that person did.

This is where people who hold signs up about how others are going to hell for doing such and such (whether it's destroying the earth or being gay) are so wrong. Jesus is clearly using hyperbole to make the point. The whole premise (a valid one I believe) of the group is that people who suffer from the same basic disease will be better able to support one another because they For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get.

Looking at etymology online, judgment came to imply the meaning of discernment from around 1530s on. [Last night Sarah Olson said I should just the word discernment instead of judgment to You bring up “wise justice” in your comment in the context of how you see judgments. It means, yes, 'let's tolerate each other,' but it also means, 'don't harass me,' which means 'remain at a proper distance from me.' If you scratch the surface you will also Life is about creating yourself - George Bernard ShawThe one you love and the one who loves you are never, ever the same person - Chuck PalahniukI wanted a perfect ending.

Trevor adds: Not only that, but a person still has to responsible for their actions, no matter how much trauma they've undgergone. I am happy being me a single, 40 year old woman whom is a old maid. Even if they are more familiar with that other persons pain. Certainly on the level of day to day affairs, my history, etc.

This second (and I think complementary yet distinct) reading might validate a part of Paul Coehlo's quotation (if I'm not reading too much into his statement). If we look at the full context of that first quotation from Jesus we get the following: "Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. Isn’t it because you have tried out the teachings and discerned for yourself those which work for you? I am not suggesting we remove challenging each other from our interactions.

You were what you were, according to me. Does the idea that we cannot completely know the pain of another keep us forever separated from one another, unable to live in judgment with each other? The traditional cultures of the world were (and still are) full of such destructive, de-humanizing judgment. Quite the contrary, to me it’s because we are, as you say “different manifestations of the same underlying processes”, that we should not judge each others’ lives.

But for simplicity I tend to categorize modernity as one of toleration and then post-modernity as extending that into cultural spheres. I didn't know their pain and renunciation and therefore I didn't have that context when judging their actions. As ‘A Course in Miracles' says, we can't judge others without judging ourselves. Judgment is seen I think by many solely in the form of the negative, oppressive judgments of much of the traditional world--which the modern and postmodern worlds have rightly rebelled against.

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I wouldn’t use that terminology – I may be sharing my perspective, giving you feedback, entering dialogue with you, but I am not throwing up a metric within a context and In that paradoxical sense, I think we need more not less judgment.